In 2023, the Pew Research Center revealed that 20% of men aged 25 to 34 were residing with their parents. While this figure has decreased from the peak pandemic levels, it remains the highest since the 1940s.
This trend often evokes stereotypes of underachieving young men, yet these assumptions are increasingly being challenged. Florida-based psychotherapist Dru Johnston emphasizes that many adult children living at home maintain healthy, supportive relationships with their parents, rather than the codependent dynamics often portrayed in media.
As homeownership rates decline, especially among millennials, there is a growing likelihood that more young adults will return to their family homes. Researchers anticipate a surge in medical needs for aging Baby Boomers in the coming decade, further complicating the housing landscape.
We spoke with three individuals who are currently living with their parents to gain insight into their experiences.
Michael, 41, moved back in with his parents in DeKalb, Illinois, twice. His first return was in 2012 due to rising living costs and his father's early-onset dementia. This arrangement allowed him to earn a teaching degree while supporting his family. After a series of personal challenges, including a separation and his mother's passing, Michael returned home again in 2025. He views this living situation as a positive opportunity to bond with his father, who prepares dinner and shares daily conversations, creating a mutual support system.
Zach, 35, relocated to his family's multi-generational home in Suffield, Connecticut, during the pandemic. Despite the challenges in the restaurant and construction sectors, this move allowed him to cherish time with his grandmother before her passing. Zach actively contributes by managing a deli and maintaining the family home, fostering a sense of community and shared responsibility. He advocates for breaking the stigma around relying on family support, stating, "You can't build generational wealth without generational wisdom or support."
Lawson, 36, returned to his parents' home in Brooklyn in 2020, a decision that allowed him to assist his aging grandmother and aunt. This time gave him the space to pivot his career from stand-up comedy to podcasting, generating a modest income. Lawson acknowledges the complexities of independence while valuing the safety of living with family amidst societal uncertainties.
Johnston notes that adults living with parents come from diverse backgrounds and circumstances, including caring for aging relatives or recovering from life changes. He himself has experienced this during different life stages, highlighting the importance of support systems during uncertain times.
These narratives illustrate that living with parents can be a strategic choice, fostering interdependence and community. This evolving dynamic challenges traditional notions of adulthood and independence, suggesting that future generations may redefine family roles and support systems.
